A book review by Robert Periera
The intrigue of ‘girl-world’ for the five to ten years age group, is developed in this text, with case stories that all parents will be able to identify with. The model promoted by the authors to assist parents to deal with the social complexities their daughters are immersed in, is the PET model although they do not specifically mention PET by name. They speak about the ‘FOUR STEP’ process. These Four Steps mention and develop all the skills taught in a PET course.
The Four Steps are:
- Support to Act
Under ‘observe’ they speak about ‘reading the cues’ (non-verbal and verbal) when the child is interacting with other girls; whether the girl is submissive or dominant in her relationships with her peers.
Under ‘connect’ they speak about ‘active listening’ and provide some examples of AL for each of the complex cases described. How to active listen when the child comes to the parent with a problem. The authors also discuss how to proceed when the child does not come to the parent directly. So the I-message and shifting gears feature here.
Under ‘guide’ they promote ‘problem-solving’ (Method-III) and consultancy when it is appropriate to provide an alternative way of thinking about situations.
Under ‘support to act’ the practical implementation of the Method-III conversation is developed for each of the scenarios described. How to assist the child to speak to her peers about the social dilemma she finds herself in, how to be assertive as the drama unexpectedly unfolds for the child, reflects much of what we teach in a BYB course as well.
As I read this text, with my PET glasses on, I thought that it would be an invaluable resource for instructors. I have produced (in card form) one of the scenarios from this resource. It is called ‘Crazy Socks Day’ which can be procured for $ 5.00 + postage. Also available is a 4-column Grid showing the relationship between the 4-Steps and the PET Course. (As this grid is in landscape format, those who wish a copy might email me.) The text is also available from me @ $28.95 + postage.
NEW ROLE PLAY – Crazy Socks Day
Card Set @ $ 5.00 + postage.
5 cards with parent role / 5 child role for use in Sessions 6 or 7 – Method III
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