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Lovely poem written by Keith from Melbourne back in 1977! Credit: Active Listening page

While searching for some historical information from the archives at Gordon Training, we found this gem....from a PET graduate/instructor, from "down undah", many moons ago... #activelistening #listen #gordonmodel

Helpful to see it written so clearly...

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The impact of Parent Effectiveness Training lasts many, many years, as attested in this feedback from a Mum who attended the course nine years ago.

A Reflection on the Impact of the P.E.T. skills on a Family, Nine Years After Attending the Course. "I would thoroughly recommend the Parent Effectiveness Training (PET) course. At the time that I did my course, I was pregnant with my youngest child and felt a little ill equipped to parent my four children. I had attended other parenting courses prior to this, but I was still searching for workable parenting strategies. The Parent Effectiveness Training course helped me in more ways than I knew. At the time there was a lot of information made available, but over the years I have found myself recalling some of the techniques and using them to find positive outcomes. Now when someone tells me what they want, I think of it as exactly that – It is what they want, not what they need. In that way it doesn’t seem to cause me as much stress, and I am quickly able to resolve any problems or conflict. I know that I have the strategies taught in the PET class to help me. (Parent Skill's note: P.E.T. helps parents differentiate between 'wants' and 'needs', noting that 'wants' are often a solution to an underlying need) The technique of active listening was also taught in the session. At the time I recall several of the men in the class coming to the realisation that they had never fully listened to the women they had been married to for over twenty years. That was something significant to witness. Now life is busier, and my children are older. I am working with them to teach them the basics of how to communicate respectfully. I can see changes taking shape in their own lives, as they now show more consideration to the needs of others. Its fantastic to see how one course has had such a positive impact in all our lives." Gail, mother of four.

What are your thoughts?

"Teaching my children communication skills means we speak the same language. I am finding it useful to take my children with me on my journey with communication skills (learned through a parenting course). For us, I think it enables a depth of discussion and analysis that has deepened our understanding of each other, and our relationship."

BYB courses coming up in Melbourne VIC. For more information visit www.facebook.com/innerharmonyproject or go to http://www.effectivenesstraining.com.au/timetable/

Harmony in Communication Program Going from “Lost in Translation” to “Effective Communication” Based on Dr Thomas Gordon’s “Personal/Parent Effectiveness Training” (P.E.T.) & Linda Adams “Be Your Best” Program What can you look forward to by participating in this program? • Understanding your own needs, thoughts and feelings • Learning how to communicate with ease • Increased connection with loved ones • Practical skills to deal with conflict at home, at work and in life • Setting personal goals and applying the tools to meet them Key Learnings • Self-Awareness & Authentic Self-Disclosure • Empathic and Deep Listening • Reducing Fear & Anxiety • Resolving Conflicts • Planning and Meeting Personal Goals Keywords Compassion * Awareness * Assertiveness * Boundaries * Connection * Communication You will walk away with clarity, practical skills and a renewed confidence in yourself! Workshops, full programs and individual sessions available Facilitated by Holistic Counsellor and Communication Facilitator Anne-Marije Bussink Location: 1/131 Maling Road, Canterbury For dates & tickets visit fb.com/innerharmonyproject/events.